Child stress and cope Help


Children can also experience stress, and if not handled properly can cause disease physically, emotionally and mentally. So, how do you as a parent I know the symptoms of stress in children? What causes it? What can be done to help children from the stress of the child?

Although many minds, adults sometimes want to go back to childhood because he thought at the time the child can play freely without having to think about family, finances, or anything else. However, innocent child who was also experienced frustration and stress. Even some diseases in children May be caused by a psychosomatic reaction caused by stress.


Causes of stress for children

Stress in children can occur at any age, even from an early age, because in the womb. When stressed pregnant mother, fetus in the womb will feel. Fetal heart rate become irregular, so that supply oxygen and nutrients decreased. As we age, especially during adolescence, various reasons can cause stress in children, among them are:

Food
Lack of nutrients in foods can cause the child is not the optimal growth and supply the necessary nutrients that the body is not enough for menimbulan stress. Also, consumption of fast food too, because these foods contain excessive sugar and lack of nutrition for the body.

Sleep
Playing or watching too much television makes children lack of sleep. For children who were enrolled, the number of assignments from school, extracurricular activities or courses that make children much less time and spend time on the way to finish the job hours of sleep decreases. Lack of sleep can cause emotions and thoughts of a child becomes unstable and prone to stress.

Family environment
Arguments parent or divorce can cause fear in children. This is reasonable, because a child desperate for love of people around him, especially parents to feel safe and protected.

Parents parenting
In general, parents, parenting consists of 3 types. First, where authoritarian parents are authoritarian, do not give children the freedom and force the child to meet the demands of parents, and even child abuse. Second, that permissive parents freed his son, although a child can not make the right decision and let your child's mistakes. Third, that authoritative parents set clear consequences of any action taken, they do not curb excessive child does not get it for free, but continue to give attention to children and trying to establish an independent child. This authoritative model is best for your child membentu personality. Stress can occur in children when he was not able to meet the demands of their parents or because it must bear the consequences of bad decisions due to errors.

Pressure from friends
In his social, your child does not want to be different from other children in the group. The difference of the child, or perhaps because of the physical nature can cause ridicule from their friends. This is what can cause a child to feel stressed because they feel can not be accepted by their friends.

Stress Symptoms

A child who is stressed can be identified by observing his behavior. Psychosomatic reactions, including gastrointestinal problems, headaches, fatigue, sleep disturbances, and problems during the waste water, perhaps a sign that something was wrong. Other signs such as frequent crying, happy to be alone, cranky, do not want to go to school or a place, making mischief in the school or playground environment, decline in value of the school. Even stress can also cause physical illness in children, such as dizziness, nausea, diarrhea, paralysis due to depression, or other diseases.

If a child gets ill in a long time and after consultation the doctor can not find the exact cause, then there is nothing wrong if you ask for help from a psychologist, because the disease could have caused not a virus, bacterium or damage caused to the body but the mind that children under stress .


Helping Children Experiencing Stress

As a man who has not experienced a brain capacity that have not been optimum, a child does not have the ability to find solutions have been suffering from stress and need assistance from adults in order to overcome the difficulties that she experienced stress not prolonged.

If there is any indication of your child experiencing stress, to avoid panicking too much because if you panic then you can also suffer from stress that can not help your child. What can you do to help your child is:

Improve your parenting
If all this you tend to authoritarian or permissive vice versa, should you change your parenting style that your child does not feel burdened with excessive demands. In contrast, provide clear rules, why the rules are given and the consequences if rules are violated. Do not forget to give praise when your child to be positive, but given a reprimand or discipline a child if the offense as well as an explanation why the discipline is given and not because their parents hate their children.

Do not make excessive demands
Parents want their children achieve the best, but do not set targets that can not be achieved by the child. Do not criticize or compare a child with someone else. Accept a child with all the benefits and drawbacks. If a child fails to achieve the demands that you give, do not punish or mocking, but in order to help children become better in the future. Failure experienced by the child now does not mean he can not be better and it does not mean the end of everything.

Create a closeness with the child and open communication
Proximity to the child's parents will help a child open to parents and parents free to make as a place to vent. Children can tell an unpleasant incident that happened while at school or outside the home. Parents, as people with more experience can provide a good solution for a child or take the action necessary to make an unpleasant incident can be avoided. This is very good compared to when the child told permasalahannnya to peers or other people who are not exactly who can provide advice that made worse off.

Create a harmonious family
Mother father relationship harmony, closeness with her older sister and other family members to make the child feel comfortable and at home, helping avoid the bad interactions that can cause various problems that can make children stressed. In addition, with a harmonious family can avoid quarrels and even divorce that would interfere with child's emotional stability.

Form an independent child
A child at the time must be independent, because the parents could not constantly watching him. So, help a child with a trained him to make the necessary decisions. For example, when a child asks if an act be done or not, invite children to discuss what good things and negative things will happen if the children do so. This can help a child if one day he must make decisions without the help of parents. Children who will be more independent dpaat solve the problem and deal with when he felt uncomfortable that prevent children experience stress.

Give reasonable flexibility for children
For things that are not too principle, provide flexibility in children. For example in determining extra-curricular activities or courses that will follow. Let the children channeled his hobby, so children do not feel constrained and enjoy the activities.

Provide healthy foods and getting enough sleep
Because nutrient intake can affect child stress, and serve nutritious meals for you, do not become familiar with fast food, soft drinks, or other snacks that are not nutritious. Also familiarize the child to eat regularly and on time. Meanwhile, to help children get enough sleep, help your child to have a good schedule, determine when he can play, when to do other tasks and schedules so the children have time for a nap and not to have to stay up late to get on with it.

Attention and affection from parents who needed child tertutama and help children avoid stress. So, continue to support, train and foster your child so that he can enjoy his days cheerfully.